Never forget: most of us have been poisoned by a toxic educational system that teaches us systematically that failing at a task or not knowing a correct answer is shameful.
There is no inherent shame in failure, in not knowing, or in being wrong, and we shouldn't actively shame others for it.
Get back up, learn something new, and try again.
@noelle i'm going to limit my reply to a very loud MODERN EDUCATIONAL SYSTEMS ARE ****SHIT**** and leave it there
I would agree with you, but here in Sweden it´s gotten nearly the other way around. It seems like people are proud of not knowing anything.
@noelle if I had to pick one thing, as a middle-aged lady, that took me too long to unlearn, that I want to tell all the young people asap:
you don't have to be good at stuff to be loved!
in fact you can suck at everything and be loved! people who are bad at things are fun and lovely!
you can be terrible at every single job, skill and hobby and still have love, friends, respect, community, happiness, freedom, a life worth living!
it's about thinking of others, not about skill points!
@noelle is it weird that the way I finally internalized that it was okay not to know things was by getting into the tech industry
@WizardOfDocs @noelle There is a high level of needing to seem to know everything, for weird HR requirements, interviews, client communication, general compensation (probably mostly male driven). So I see your point completely. I guess I was talking about the realities of the situation, and how things ideally should be among developers. You can see the truth in the memes. Searching stack-overflow for basic stuff is not really a joke.
@noelle It took me until a couple of years ago to realize that when exercising, if I fail to complete a set or do something perfectly, that's a good thing, because it means I'm challenged. If I could do a full set 100% perfectly then I should be turning up the intensity.
@noelle Just last week I finally sat down and learned what modulo is because I wanted to figure out how RSA works.
Not because I had to but because I felt like it.
I never hated math, I just hated math class
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