I've finally nailed down why "girldicks" etc. bothers me, and why I won't make an account on the trans-focused instance called something like that (girlcock.club? something like that): it feels inherently fetishizing, like it's reducing me to my genitals, and like it's insisting that I NOT be dysphoric.

I don't WANT all the features of my body, I don't want to be reminded that I have the parts I don't want, and I REALLY don't want to be told how to feel about them.