**josef** @jk@mastodon.social · May 29, 2018, 17:41

**josef** @jk@mastodon.social · May 29, 2018, 17:41

josef @jk@mastodon.social

May 29, 2018, 17:41

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looking at the latest hn thread about mastodon and seeing at least a half-dozen people who are essentially saying: "i went on mastodon and the people on there were behaving in a kind and respectful way, and it was too stressful to make myself behave in a kind and respectful way too, so i left"

weirds me out so much when i read stuff like this. like gives me a massive huge "unknowability of the other" feeling

**Caitlin 🦀** @c8rz@cybre.space · May 29, 2018, 18:03

**Caitlin 🦀** @c8rz@cybre.space · May 29, 2018, 18:03

May 29, 2018, 18:03

Caitlin 🦀 @c8rz@cybre.space

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@jk I have chronic fatigue syndrome, and sometimes when I'm really tired it can feel like a lot of effort to be considerate of other people, especially when their needs are ones I don't see very often. Even tho I think it's important to do that!
I don't get the impression those people mean it that way, tho

**maloki | new home** @maloki · 2018-05-29T21:29:46Z

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@c8rz huh, interesting. I have actually found that my CFS has helped me be more compassionate, mostly because I forget old arguments and stuff and just move on.

Also incredibly important to step away when you're too tired though.

@jk

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**josef** @jk@mastodon.social · May 29, 2018, 21:30

**josef** @jk@mastodon.social · May 29, 2018, 21:30

May 29, 2018, 21:30

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@maloki @c8rz my mother has CFS/ME and i have definitely experienced both of these!

**Satsu** @Satsuma@wandering.shop · May 31, 2018, 03:49

**Satsu** @Satsuma@wandering.shop · May 31, 2018, 03:49

May 31, 2018, 03:49

Satsu @Satsuma@wandering.shop

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@maloki @c8rz @jk for me i definitely get both sides of this, like i can’t spend energy on prolonged arguments, which encourages me to be more empathetic & resolve things without a fight

But also sometimes I see like, someone using pronouns ive never seen before and im like ‘oh no i do not have the mental energy for this at all’ and then i feel bad because obviously everyone deserves to have their pronouns respected