thoughts on “phases” 

I hate it when people try to dismiss something as “just a phase”. There's almost no context where that phrase isn't terrible.

First off, I think it's very egotistical to think that *you* can somehow determine *for other people* what kind of expression is or isn't real for them.

But perhaps even more importantly, it implies that something being a phase is somehow a bad thing, or that it makes it less valid. But it isn't, and it doesn't.

thoughts on “phases” 

Because that's the thing: even when something is a phase, it can be an important part of our development. It's one of the ways that we explore ourselves and figure out who we are.

Especially when we're young – but even when we're old – we “try on” different identities and slowly figure out which ones fit us best. It doesn't mean that the previous ones we tried weren't valid at the time; it just means that we're slowly growing into the ones that fit us best.

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thoughts on “phases” 

And that's a *good* thing! It's not something to be downplayed or dismissed. It should be encouraged. You *should* go through phases!

And when you dismiss the way people currently express themselves -- purely because they might not feel that way in the future -- you actively hinder that growing process.

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thoughts on “phases” 

@MisterBeret honestly, the pinterest-worthy quote that i am still trying to workshop as a rebuttal to people grumbling about how "it's just a phase" -

the moon goes through plenty of phases. it's still the moon. it still turns the tides.

thoughts on “phases” 

@wigglytuffitout @MisterBeret the moon going through its phases is one of the identifying prototypical features of how we think about the moon

thoughts on “phases” 

@MisterBeret that's what i tend to think wrt "phases", like when you read a bio on some famous artist you'll see they went throught their romanticist phase, surrealist phase, wwii protest phase, etc. and it's all part of that artist's canon of work

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