Normalize quitting things. It could be school, work, relationships, hobbies, or pretty much anything.
Quitting is often thought of as inherently negative; nobody wants to be called a "quitter". But there are plenty of situations where not only is it reasonable, it's the *best* course of action.
You can drop out college or switch majors when you don't care about the thing you're studying. You can end a relationship when it becomes toxic. You can stop playing a game that you don't enjoy.
I've spent so much of my life doing things I didn't care about, purely because I didn't want to be seen as a quitter.
I spent a good chunk of my childhood playing sports I hate that my parents wanted me to play. When I expressed disinterest, my parents would always frame it as me being lazy, or as "giving up", as if that was inherently a bad thing. They got me to waste years on things I hate this way, because being a quitter, in any context, was considered a mark of bad character.
We're often taught that quitting, in and of itself, is a bad thing. But it's... just not. It's value neutral.
Now, having the ability and will to stick with something through difficult times is a good trait... IF that thing is worth sticking with in the first place. Plenty of things aren't. Some things will be for some people, and won't be for others.
And if you give something a proper chance and determine that it's not? Then quit! I'm not just saying you can, I'm saying you should!
@KBY30 I totally get that feeling! And of course this is all easier said than done. But being totally honest here? I think I'd rather be a disappointment if it means that I'm doing what makes me happy
@MisterBeret the thing is I don’t do anything else and I already feel like a massive disappointment, so quitting now would basically be a death blow to my self-esteem.
I understand that what you’re saying isn’t supposed to apply to me, it’s just general advice.
But I don’t wanna be a disappointment anymore.
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